Archive for category: Dating Tips

If you’re a guy and you’ve ever become desperate in the world of dating, then you may have at some point turned to the internet for advice. Like the most powerful agony aunt in the universe, the internet can answer all our problems and turn us into geniuses in almost any subject. If you turned to the internet for this particular subject, then chances are you might have heard the word ‘The Game’ and be wondering what it is and whether it really works. And then you might have wondered whether there really is this secret key to getting any woman to go out with you… and then that might have brought you here.

Good news, you’re in the right place. Here we’re going to look at precisely what the game is, but more importantly whether or not it can really turn you into a lothario.

What is The Game?

There are lots of things that call themselves the game (there’s that game that you play by not thinking about the game for instance – which you just lost by the way), but in this case ‘The Game’ refers to a set of rules and practices outlined on the web and in books for attracting women. Apparently by using The Game your average skinny nerd can pull a beautiful buxom blonde – even if she’s in a relationship – by simply laying down some hocus pocus.

This movement of course garnered a bit of attention and there are loads of rules and terms that you can follow to become better at it – all preached by a bunch of guys who call themselves things like ‘Shadow’. Presumably because the kind of guy who uses The Game also loves Dragon Ball Z…

How Does it Work?

Don’t let that quip mislead you – I’m not about to write this off immediately as ‘for geeks’. Actually if you read the book there are a lot of lessons and ideas there that can genuinely help anyone to become more generally confident and to develop themselves. Any form of self development is important, and so I’m not knocking it.

 

Generally the concepts preached by The Game (I’m getting tired of writing that in capitals…) revolve around evolutionary theory of human psychology – that women are looking for men who are a good catch and who are going to provide good genetic material and resources for their offspring. Thus your shy weedy guy doesn’t do that well until he learns to send the signals that he is the more confident party and must have some ‘secret’.

He does this in several ways. For one he will subtly knock the confidence of the woman he is interested in with sly comments that show he’s not intimidated (negging). At the same time he might show off his resources and at the same time be bold enough to break social convention (peacocking) thereby showing that he’s well off and highly resourceful. At the same time he will work on his approach and his general aura of confidence to make himself more of a catch – and if you read the book titled The Game (original) then you will be required to go through several challenges such as chatting to strangers in the street, in order to overcome any of your social inhibitions.

And it’s here – in pushing yourself through those social inhibitions that The Game has some merit. Quite a lot in fact. And if you can take home these lessons and apply them to other areas of your life then this can in theory help you to progress your career and your relationships to a worthwhile degree. I’m not saying The Game is great – it is nerdy and it can be amoral – but read the book and look into it because there is certainly some value there.

John Simpsons is an avid blogger who has great knowledge in the field of human psychology, hypnosis and meditation.

We’ve all been there and are still doing that – dating. With dating comes trials and tribulations, emotional rollercoasters, giddy talks with our girlfriends until the wee hours in the morning and sometimes, when we least expect it, a diamond ring from your true love. Here are a few simple tips to lure in the man you want without going too far.  Simplicity is key!

Dress For Dating Success

With body type set aside, nobody wants to go on a first, second, third or millionth date with a woman who looks sloppy, unprofessional and oozes cheap. Fashionable styles to fit all body types, especially women looking for now have unlimited options like never before.  You can put together outfits online or venture to the local mall to get ideas on what best suits you.  Select a professional and sexy style within your budget. For example, pair a pencil skirt with a playful see-through (silk or satin) blouse, heels and a simple handbag. This way you’re leaving plenty to his imagination while remaining classy.

Again, regardless of your body type – you can play around with various styles you have in your closet by mixing and matching items. I enjoy using the site Polyvore for ideas.

Respect Feelings

All too often, women try just a little too hard, especially for a man she’s pursuing. For example, showing signs of jealousy or envy, overly flirty at any given moment and acting too clingy or desperate. STOP! Stop continuing these actions – you won’t succeed luring the one you desire and end up driving him away waving goodbye in the distance. BE YOURSELF! Reflect for a moment and think about how you act. Just like you want respect – treat him just as well.

Direct Whisper

Flirting is one of the top highlights when it comes to dating! Whip up a good story or offer a loving compliment to whisper softly in his ear during drinks or dinner. You don’t have to feel uncomfortable or embarrassed – start with something simple like, “you look absolutely stunning in that jacket tonight” or whisper a quality about him that you really like.

Have Your Own Life

Men LOVE a woman who is independent, has her own schedule and occasionally turns down a dinner offer because of tickets to a show. Make sure you’re staying true to your schedule and feelings. Keep him interested, keep him curious and keep him on his toes. How? Simply sending thoughtful texts or even a phone call might be a good start. You could also surprise him every once in a while. For example, say you’re going to see a ball game (even if you don’t really enjoy ballgames but he does) with your girlfriends. Later, text him informing him to meet you at a bar nearby and  grab a drink before you “leave for the game”. Make plans with him far enough in advance so he knows you’re going to meet! For guys who enjoy sports, this will melt his heart.

So Remember…

If you love your body, so will he! Keep in mind with the right attitude and self-respect, you’ll have no problems setting boundaries between your life and his until you’re both mutually ready to move forward in a serious manner. Until then, take each day slow and make every moment memorable through little romantic gestures. Never give up your independence and stay grounded! Enjoy!

If you are just simply dreaming from afar about the man of your dreams, it’s time to snap out from your reverie and make some action. Here are four proven ways you can make a man want you. It’s not simply donning your best padded bra ( although that helps ) under your clothes but check out the best ways you can make him truly yours.

1. Don’t Treat Him Like  Your Girlfriends. There are things which you might appropriately share with your girlfriends but not with the guy you wish to attract with.  It’s a no-no to talk about the man on the other table while the two of you are dining out. The same is true with tagging him along on shopping for shoes or padded bra. It is not good to see him carrying all your shopping bags. Talk about appropriate topics during dates which means you would not normally dish about clothes and the latest trend in fashion.

2. Be Generous with Compliments. When you show that you are thankful even for the little things, that will make a difference. Showing your appreciation will mean a lot. Men sometime need a boost on their ego. Letting him feel important will somehow do that.

3. Show that You Are Interested with What He is Doing. Showing interests in what he loves to do another plus. Of course, don’t overdo it. Men can sense if you are just pretending. Don’t say something negative about his  hobby or what he does best.

4. Show Grace and Class in Your Actions. Men will be smitten with women who embody grace and show class in their actions.  They will always appreciate women who still have that air of mystery. Being loud and flirty will not at all please men but will somehow give another impression.

The four effective tips on attracting the guy you like will go a very long way if you start applying them now. Attracting the guy that you truly believe embodies the qualities of a great partner in life will become easier. No more clueless days where men is concerned and you know what to do when you are in a situation with him. Goodbye to awkward moments and hello to the new and confident you. Get to wear your best clothes and be confident inside out.

Several tips will still help you in your quest to attract the best  man in life. When you apply them, you have more control and you will be able to calm yourself when the guy you like is just around the corner.

A few years ago, my only tip for asking a woman out on Facebook would be this: don’t. Arranging a date over the web? So tacky, and even if you were meeting on a dating site I would recommend waiting until you had a phone number and then calling to arrange a get together. But, as I said, that was a few years ago, and the rules have shifted.

Social networking has largely changed the way we communicate. No longer is it strange to go to Facebook to speak to someone before picking up the phone. Even using phones is less common now than text messaging. A little crazy? For an old fashioned kind of person like me, a bit. But etiquette has evolved with technology.

Keeping this in mind, I no longer think it is a misstep to turn to Facebook as a dating tool. I do believe, however, that there is a good and a bad way at approaching it. Hopefully, these tips will keep you in the ‘good’ and so more successful line of things.

Tip #1 – Facebook Is Not A Dating Site

 

I know what I just said about it being an acceptable way of asking someone out. I stand by that statement. However, I don’t want you to think that means Facebook is a dating site, because it isn’t. A tool, yes. A place where people specifically set out to meet potential mates, no.

This is an important distinction, because it will help to regulate your behavior. For example, say you see a random photo of a woman and think, “Man, I could tap that”. So you go for the add friend button. Seems logical enough right?

The problem is that I guarantee she will have gotten this from a number of sleazy guys who have been bothering her in the past. Either she will reject your request, or accept it and be on guard when you speak to her. Primarily because she is not on there to date; she is on there to use the site for what it was intended for: sharing things with people she actually knows, and probably playing Mafia Wars.

Which leads us to tip number two…

Tip #2 – Make Sure You Know Her, First

Adding a random chick you don’t know is creepy behavior. Adding someone you have met before, knew in the past or even just has mutual friends is not. This gives you a direct line of contact, giving her a reason to trust you. Sending her a friend request when there is at least a mutual contact will keep her from immediately thinking you are some creeper looking to drool over her holiday photos.

Not only does this give you a foundation, but you will be able to message her for a chat. This is important, as you want to have a conversation first, right? Just asking her out would be the equivalent of jumping out from the bushes with a bouquet of flowers and requesting her to join you in your murder van. Not smooth.

Tip #3 – Breaking The Ice and Casual Plans

Facebook makes breaking the ice with someone so simple. Start by paying attention to a few of their status messages and photos (don’t overdo it!), and leaving comments and likes. From there, take a look at their interests and find things you have in common. Maybe it is a band, movie or book. Bam! Immediate ice breaker for a private message.

Once you have been chatting awhile, you will see if you guys hit it off. Believe it or not, this acts as a kind of pre-date. You might find that you don’t like her as much once you have spent some time conversing.

But if you do, you can bring up an event or maybe getting together. If there is a spark, she will feel it too, so asking her out on something casual won’t be remiss. Or, you can see what mutual events you will be attending and see about going together.

Conclusion

That is all it takes, just three tips and you can use Facebook to ask a girl out on a date. Maybe they will work; maybe they won’t. But if they don’t, it is probably because there was just no interest on her part, and it is best to move on.

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