Archive for category: Online Dating

Probably providing the largest pool of declared individual candidates and couples willing to find someone for personal, romantic and at times sexual relationship, the Internet is proving one of the most favorable spots to find love and company. However large numbers of interested parties’ fraudsters, violent characters, chauvinist and maniac are keeping positioning themselves on the sites with the hope of nailing a few vulnerable souls. On many occasions I have received SOS cries after a few days of meeting people online. The funny bit is that after a few days of your refusal to help, the communications dry up and the relationships needless to say end up in smoke.

To be on the safer side however there are a number of tell tale signs you must be on the lookout especially if you hope to find someone for romantic relationships.

Frequency of Communication

Communication in any relationship is extremely important. While in the early stages the frequency of communication may be high but the number of time available will reduce before final stabilizing. When communication remains scarce from the onset and continues with the trend, the tell tale signs are out that the person might be so busy and would give you so little or no time off the Internet. It is advisable that, depending on how long you have dated on site, ask about his/her job demands and the amount of time he/her would set aside for family to understand how you’ll fit in his/her apparent strict schedule. If the arrangement doesn’t favor you, don’t take it off line when it’s going nowhere.

Possessiveness/Stalkers

Quite often you meet someone  online and as the dating game begins so does the questions why you didn’t answer to their questions as first what were you doing and who were you talking to?! Within a very short period the individuals without your permissions have intruded into your other social sites and are monitoring the conversations and reacting to them negatively as you hold your talking sessions with them. If he/she has not asked your permissions before placing in a friend’s request on face book or even asks whether you have other social accounts before asking to join in, then you are dealing with a stalker. Let them respect your space; chances are that they might already know where you stay and closely follow you after work to monitor your movement.

Other Online Subscriptions

Once you’ve started dating online, ask your date if they are subscribed to any other sites on the net. The social network sites they are subscribed into will give you an insight into the character of the person. For instance, if he is subscribed to pages with offensive messages, that defines his character. Take time to learn the person well by asking questions related to the pages they have subscribed to and have their personal opinion over the pages. This will help you make good judgment before taking it off.

Photos Used/Information

People dating online tend to post picture of their best moment, hence making them look at their best. As the days go by, ask for more pictures and additional information on their pages to get to know the person better. Request for various picture portraits, half and full sized photos to get a glimpse of what the physical attributes of the date are. If you like, then go ahead; if not, find your way out.
If your date is mean with information or uses pseudo pictures, request for the real thing and if they aren’t coming, don’t take it offline.

Verify the information given in the bio with them and if there is any bit of contradiction, take your time.

Language

While most people tend to be very careful with their language when they meet new people and especially when writing, familiarity loosens the care and people start using the normal language they would use in real life. Slowly but surely they start testing your limits by occasionally using words that would betray their lifestyles. Be keen enough to pick out these phrases as they might be crucial in determining the final decision. If the person is vulgar and swears all the time, be careful and they might just be telling you that they can’t handle their anger and so on. The language use also tends to bring out the upbringing of the individuals.

Finally, the final decision of when to take if offline solely lies with you; remember to ensure the first date off the net is arranged to be in public areas where you can call for help if in trouble. It is important to note that, if the person you were dating online with successfully managed to conceal their true self there, please take the first few dates in public to learn them before finally opting for a more private date.

Humans are created in such a way that they all feel the need to love and to be loved. It is this need that has many people searching far and wide for a person to love or someone who can make them feel loved. While it may be easy for some people to get that person, others are shy and may even find it hard to interact with fellow humans. There are some who find it difficult because of the security issues involved when it comes to meeting a stranger. There are also some who are simply put off by how expensive it is to go on a date and get to know a stranger. Thanks to the advancement in technology, people no longer have to worry about these. This is because of the discovery of innovative ways of interactions such as video chat.

Video chat is basically a means of interacting with people over the internet and only requires one to have a stable internet source, a computer or laptop that has an attached camera. The person you are planning to interact with also needs to have the same so that you can carry out a cam to cam chat. It is actually a nouveau way to find love or just to have fun interacting with other people who may have similar interests with you.

This mode of interaction has several advantages over other forms when it comes to finding love. The fact that you get to see and hear the person with whom you are interacting means that you do not have problems of knowing their true identity, while people may create false profiles on other online dating or chat sites where video chat is not enabled. It is an effective way of getting to know your potential life partner via videochat, since it creates a virtual date environment and you can actually see if the other person is sad or happy, and instantly see their reactions towards your words, so you can adjust accordingly.

You can also build rapport with the person you are chatting with until you are able to meet them in person. This saves you the expense of traveling to see them in person too. What’s more, video chat dating fits those who’re better at verbal communications than writing and it provides those people with the opportunities to meet more people without having to rely on writing such as messaging back and forth on an internet dating site. If you are one of them and looking for the best way to find love, you should really try an online dating site with video chat rooms.

Prem says:
September 21, 2013 at 12:46 pm
I think this is one of the coolest ways to find love – The nouveau way ;). No matter where on earth you are, you will feel close to the person you’re having a conversation with. I think this trend is becoming more and more popular among teens and it’s much safer than other means of chatting where we don’t know whether the person to whom we are chatting with do really exist or someone is just playing around. Cam to Cam chat does give a feel of security and we don’t need to worry about any other thing, face to face communication is always the best. The best thing about this is even though when we are miles away we can be still see each other and can feel the comfort sitting back at their desk. Thanks to the rapidly growing technology which is making our life better.

It’s hard to believe that dating sites once had to “sell” the idea of online dating to people who were far too nervous to even log in to a chat room.  Nowadays, everyone has their own dating site or at least a Facebook profile that looks sort of like an online dating profile.  Yes, the world has embraced online dating as a viable solution for finding love.  And while 1990s “love bites” cynicism was once the flavor of the day, today we live in a world of customized solutions.

Customize Your Passion

Now lovers, singles and anyone with a yearning heart can go out and find precisely what he or she wants courtesy of the online dating service.  What was once dismissed as an unromantic notion (the idea of taking romance to a computer screen) is now seen as the most logical, the most erotic and the most emotionally satisfying solution to loneliness.  After all, when you go online, you have an entire world of possibilities, and a wide selection to choose from, from casual affairs to niche or “extreme” connections, to long-term commitment, and even shared faith partnerships.  You get precisely what you want and in the end, isn’t this what romance really is?  The ability to dream of finding something so specific and so complementary, and then to discover it a short distance away?  In the end, compatibility is what you want.  Compatibility is what makes happy romances, as opposed to those Eminem-Rihanna music videos.  Online dating is all about customizing your relationship, not just killing time on a keyboard.

And true, it is an idea that a generation ago might have found offensive to the very idea of romance.  Just like, rock and roll was once offensive to the senses; just like, premarital nookie was once an abomination to one’s reputation.  Hey, times change and it’s clear that the 2000 era is all about the ME experience.  Frankly, customization is the best shot we have at overcoming that 50/50 divorce rate.  Perhaps if we were to spend less time flirting with disaster and more time flirting with someone who really matches our needs and wants, we would be headed in the right direction.

Text for the Memories

One of the most interesting aspects I find about modern dating is the instant messaging options.  Of course, most singles are anxious to progress beyond text chatting and to go straight into video chat (i.e. sites like Omegle and Chat Roulette).  True, and it is indeed a thrill to know what your potential partner looks like in real time.  However, the text chat feature (what usually starts a conversation) is one of the most brilliant aspects of the online date because it allows you to do the unthinkable—to create a long lasting memory by saving the chat as a text file or as a chat log.

It’s something that our parents before us could hardly have fathomed—the idea of recording a first encounter, and perhaps an entire courtship, so that one day one could look back on the first time and reminisce.  Indeed, it is quite an odd feeling to read your own texts years after the fact and wonder, “What was I thinking?” or “I can’t believe I said that!”  Reading old texts with your sweetheart may even be a sort of “loaded question” scenario, similar to a relationship board game.  Indeed, what were you thinking when you confessed THAT and when you implied THAT?  And I can’t believe all I said was LOL in response.  Why, it’s the new generation’s equivalent of the embarrassing high school yearbook picture!

A Community of Lovers

Whether you’re lurking at Adult Friend Finder or making new friends at Zoosk, one thing is very apparent: customers don’t just want the dating service anymore.  They want the community.  They want their own virtual “bar” where they can go in and enjoy the many unique amenities.

They come in for the webcam chat, but they stay for the blogs, they enter the contests, take part in the group games, and of course, when it’s time to stop cyber-dancing the night away, they get serious by narrowing and localizing their search so they can have a deep conversation with someone guaranteed to be fun.  One of the greatest things about online dating is that you can walk into a community and buy anyone a drink, from a single person to a married mistress, to a transsexual, gay or lesbian partner or even the BDSM master you’ve always wanted.  Another awesome trend: finding dates according to shared allergies!  You know you’re going to have better sex when you finally find that smoldering vegetarian hottie, or that gluten-free guy with the great gluteus maximus.

These are amazing times, folks, and we now have unlimited potential to go out and find the love we long for.  Now is the time to embrace passion, to super-size it just the way you like, and to order seconds and thirds and fourths.  Take a chance…join the online dating world and explore your potential.